I came home from the Morningside and immediately apologized to her for the state of my home, it wasn’t as spic and span as I would’ve liked, but Brooke stopped me.
A little about my friend Brooke. She is incredibly smart. She is artistic, quirky, funny and she always makes me laugh. She married much later than typical BYU-UT Mormon women do. Her husband is a bit older and so they do not have any children of their own. She is however, a mother to all her nieces, nephews and the people she meets.
When she stopped me from my apologies – she said that she used my bathroom while I was way. As she passed by our laundry room to the bathroom she saw all the big people and little people shoes mixed in a massive, messy, pile. I just about started to apologize again, but she said, “I love it!”
Brooke told me she loved seeing that a family lived in our home. She talked about how when she and her twin sister used to watch kids for their friends, one of her girlfriends said “I am not going to apologize for being a family” in reference to the state of her home (toys, shoes, odds and ends, constant battle with school papers and wrappers, etc.).
I was so touched I could feel the tear ducts start up. I took Brooke’s message to heart. After she left, I went and took a picture of our mountainous pile of shoes. I had never, ever looked at my home the way Brooke had. I am so grateful for her perspective – it demonstrates how I need to remember to be grateful, even for the never-ending messes, because – a family lives here.